A Letter From “Ms. Smith”

Recently, I received a letter in the mail from a woman, whom I’ll refer to as “Ms. Smith” to protect her identity. Ms. Smith took my concealed carry course and wanted to get a gun for home protection because her husband traveled frequently.

Ms. Smith ended up getting a gun, however, her husband was adamantly against it. He told her she needed to get rid of the gun, demanded that they go to marital counseling, and he even started telling their friends and family that she was a mentally unstable “prepper” because she got a gun.

After months of arguing, Ms. Smith finally conceded to her husband and she got rid of her gun. However, she said that things only got worse in their relationship. Her husband became very suspicious of her and was monitoring her computer history, cell phone, and searching her car and purse.

Like many people, Ms. Smith couldn’t understand why her husband was doing all of this and why he wasn’t supportive in her desire to have a firearm to protect herself and her family.

But then one day it all made sense…

Ms. Smith discovered that her husband had been cheating on her for years. As she wrote to me in her letter, “His fear of the gun was driven by the fear of getting caught with his mistress.”

Eventually, Ms. Smith and her husband got divorced. But not before he tried to win custody of their daughter (so he didn’t have to pay child support) claiming that Ms. Smith was unstable and paranoid.

Today, Ms. Smith is still recovering from that ordeal but she’s found peace and sounded very positive in the letter and has found comfort in her faith. But I wanted to share this with you because there are many reasons one spouse may not want another spouse to have a gun…

Some of them make a lot of sense, such as a childhood incident, or parents who “brainwashed” them to the “evils” of firearms. But then there are cases like Ms. Smith’s when a normal and loving spouse wouldn’t start berating you to your friends and family and wouldn’t start searching your car and purse like you were hiding something just because you purchased a gun for home defense.

Obviously, I hope nobody’s spouse is cheating on them… but don’t ignore the red flags, and if your spouse doesn’t want you to get a gun get to the bottom of the real reason they don’t want you to be able to protect yourself.